Thursday, December 9, 2010

難得來人間一趟就要像蠟燭一樣,即使會流

生命之星一閃一閃
人生成績單亮晶晶~~
感恩廣大觀眾朋友的厚愛,致上無限無量的祝福~~
曾裕真2010.12.09每個人對於自己這一生,源於價值觀的不同,可能都有不同的定位與追求,有人全心於事業、有人全職於家庭、有人全力於享樂,但更有人全心、全職、全力於奉獻。在與青少年接觸的過程中,常聽到年輕人說:「為什麼大家都可以,我就不行?」,裕真總是回答:「老師從很小的時候就下定決心不當『大家』,要當『我』--一個獨特的我。」;每當出外分享,常有家長問:「孩子叛逆怎麼辦?」,老師問:「家長不重視教育,怎麼辦?」,裕真總是反問:「您下了多大的決心要改變現狀?用盡力氣也在所不惜嗎?還是,無論得到怎樣的答案,您還是依然故我!」,若想要生命有不一樣的轉變,就要在每個轉彎處把握契機,並且下定決心。裕真一介平凡的老師,何德何能受到大家如此的厚愛?近日,憂心的父母透過各種管道留言給裕真,有心的老師不時詢問校園分享的可能?不少的年輕人分享自己的感動與改變!當然,也有人關心裕真的身體狀況、讚嘆我家師兄的溫柔體貼、打聽治病醫師的資料,還有,擔心蕭文凱目前的現狀等等。裕真打從內心感激和感恩,因此,透過網路平台為各位說明,希望您能找到想要的答案。

1、曾老師現在身體狀況如何?感恩大家的關心。十多年來,一直查不出病因,醫生說「可能是」自律神經失調,目前已無大礙,不舒服時就吃一些藥。裕真幾乎忘了「它」的存在,最難過的時候都能以信心、毅力、勇氣度過,何況現在?沒問題啦!

2、請問戲裡的中醫師診所在哪裡?此部分資料涉及醫療部份,不適宜於網站上說明;可以洽詢大愛電視客服信箱(tcts@daaitv.com)。但是,是否有效,就看個人因緣了!

3、蕭文凱的近況如何?蕭文凱是化名,目前應該30出頭。當時沒有手機也沒有室內電話,尤其在規劃家訪前,就被退學了,所以一直失聯。這個案99%都是真的,令人心痛不忍到現在!

4、正光師兄真的這麼好嗎?師兄絕對比戲裡還要好,只是師兄很低調,他認為這是「我」的故事,因此執意要以「配角」的方式出現,不僅不提他的生活、交友,更婉拒上大愛會客室,以保持單純不被干擾。

5、可以邀約曾老師來校園分享嗎?如果有空,非常樂意。請大家可以透過各區教聯會的窗口協助—北桃竹區 余麗卿老師(0975-119566)中彰投區 曾年燻老師(0919-671024)雲嘉南區 林金拔老師(0932-828297)高高屏區 李秋月老師(0919-643006)宜花東區 呂鳳瑛老師(0928-298473)

6、孩子學校老師的管教方式不當或互動不佳,怎麼辦?裕真已離開慈中四年,這過程中,沒有再接觸過學校的相關會 務,很怕自己已經跟不上時代!但蒙大家厚愛與信任,裕真建議如下:

(一)把老師也當成家人一般看待。如果學生需要被關懷,老師就更需要了!年輕的老師也曾是受 保護的孩子,在理所當然的情況下,就上了教育的第一線,心中充滿惶恐與不安,是需要被疼惜的;若遇上怠惰或世故的老師,最好的方法就是—以柔克剛、以愛關懷、以單純心對待,讓冰冷的心恢復溫度,如果這是您的家人,您會怎麼做?就那麼做。

(二)教會孩子--自己的委屈要自己去溝通。當孩子回家抱怨老師的時候,父母最好不要立即應和--即使老師 是錯的,如此,才不會在父母不小心犯錯的時候,孩子也會依您教他對待老師的態度來對待您。因此,不是處處、事事、時時都幫孩子出面去跟老師溝通,而是教導孩子要為自己的委屈發聲,學習為自己的事與他人圓融溝通,學會處理自己的情緒,同時,也觀照自己是否有需要修正的地方。

7、孩子叛逆、不受教,與父母關係降到冰點,怎麼辦?

(一)找出問題的癥結,才能對症下藥。曾老師之所以對於學生很有辦法,是因與學生長期的互動、了解、深入家庭,才能找出配套的對策,家長之於孩子也應如此才是。在諸多來電與來信裡,裕真看到令人不捨的天下父母心,但是,親子關係之所以如此冰冷,一定有原因—是孩子、是父母、是社會、是交友、是老師、是心病、是受傷?還是,都存在!有些父母表示,孩子連說話都不肯,怎麼可能問出原因?真正的答案通常都不是「問」出來的,而是用心觀察和調查出來的。

(二)父母要安住自己的心,了解這是孩子的人生劇本。裕真也曾經歷孩子叛逆的階段,但是,在過程中,自己很清楚那是孩子邁入成熟的必經路線。過度叛逆的孩子是在跟自己過不去,而不是其他人,他真正討厭的也是自己,當然人生也較難走平坦路,常繞遠路而耗掉一些或很多時間。此時,父母若因心疼、生氣、不忍…而希望去改變什麼,衝突就發生了,也就是所謂的叛逆展現。父母用心,但不必擔心,因為擔心本身就是煩惱,煩惱是心的束縛,於事無補,不如發願多祝福,多看(只看)優點。

(三)營造溫暖的家庭氛圍並投入大愛關懷他人。裕真之所以和師兄感情如此之好,除了前世燒好香之外(大家都這麼說!),打從結婚開起,我們就有共識—如果以後有孩子,彼此都不能為了孩子而起口角或不悅,因為,父母的感情不睦才是最糟的教育方式。在孩子迷失時,如果我們都無能為力了,不如只做我們比較做得到的事--營造溫暖的家庭氛圍,等待孩子(的心)回家!上人慈示我們:「用菩薩的智慧教育自己的子女,用媽媽的愛心關懷別人的孩子。」,如果把自己的孩子當別人的孩子,好壞就不那麼重要了,不是嗎?把愛放在需要關懷且樂意接受我們關懷的孩子,不是很欣慰嗎?裕真一直都知道,不是好家庭就一定生得出好孩子,所以,一直很努力的做個「能積德的祖上」,一切自我要求就好。

8、建議教育部聘請曾老師擔任教師培訓中心的顧問。哇!真是不敢當!戲劇裡把「曾老師」過度塑造成有智慧的形象了,雖然故事都是真的,但二十年間也不過就輔導了幾個棘手的個案(何況有的也不成功!),不過爾爾!但是,慈濟教師聯誼會透過老師之間的真心互動、經驗交流、以愛經營班級、以智慧從事靜思語教學,的確就像人品典範老師的培育中心,歡迎有心有願、需要能量、肯為孩子付出的老師一同加入!「一閃一閃亮晶晶」之所以得到廣大觀眾的共鳴,實因這個社會的教育生病了,沉入水中的人們,驚恐得連一根稻草也想抓緊,而此狀態也造就了「一閃一閃亮晶晶」的特殊性,所以,不是曾老師有何神通,而是這個世界枯涸太久!感恩大愛電視台的用心製作、感恩本渝的真情投入、感恩孝銘的深情演出、感恩先父的劬勞教導、感恩上人的智慧帶領,更感恩各位廣大觀眾的全力支持,裕真不知該如何形容複雜心情於萬一?但是,相信--只要人人發揮大愛,多關懷一下冷漠的世界,必可讓專屬於自己的生命之星不停一閃一閃,人生成績單必會亮晶晶!

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

發心容易,恆心難

標題 : 發心容易,恆心難

生命有功能,更有良能;
能為人付出,就是智慧,
也是發揮生命的良能。

我曾聽說,有位太太買了一支雨傘,因為太喜歡而捨不得用,就把它收在箱子裏;十
幾年後突然想到,把傘打開一看,傘的骨架和傘布已經分離、朽壞了。

東西需要用心用愛來使用,才能發揮功能;若愛得太過頭、收藏得太隱密,時間一
久,就毀壞無用了。

人也是一樣。有的人很愛自己,愛惜手腳,捨不得勞動一下;說不定時間一久,手腳
也會失去功能。

人的生命,不只有功能,還有良能;能為人群付出,就是智慧,也是發揮生命良
能。在慈濟環保站,大家從早做到晚,充分利用時間、發揮身體功能,歡喜又清
淨,真正修福兼修慧。

有些人聽說做環保很好,也想來做做看;但實際來了之後,一整天整理那些拉拉雜雜
又骯髒的回收物,發現實在很辛苦,第二天就不來了。

這就是「發心容易,恆心難」。但在高雄環保站,我看到好多老菩薩,問他們做幾年
了?都說:「從這裏有環保,就開始做了。」他們志願堅定,排除萬難恆持初發
心,做二十年的大有人在,真正是菩薩!

他們做環保,不光為回收資源,還要改變自己。每位已受證的環保志工,都要力行
「三好三不」——改掉抽菸、喝酒、嚼檳榔的惡習,更進一步學習口說好話、身行好
事、心想好意。

許多人在此擺脫惡習、改變過去錯誤的人生方向,帶給家庭平安吉祥,也造就了家庭
福氣。如此集合許多造福家庭,就能造福一個社區;集合社區居民一同做環保,即能
造福社會。

Thursday, October 28, 2010

佛教慈济基金会2010年海外志工精进研习营

I am joining Tzu Chi recently and been visited to Taiwan to meet master Cheng Yan.
This was a very amazing and great tour. We had been visited to Ban Chiao, Kuan Du, Hua Lian, Tao Yuan's JIng Si tang.
This is 6 days trip from 2th-7th Oct 2010. Main purpose to visit to Taiwan Tzu Chi foundation. Schedule very tied and rush, thus, photo all taken in rush condition. This is very meaningful trip and million thanks to Taiwan Tzu Chi 师兄师姐 who take care us very well and warm welcome us. So touching! And also nice to meet new friends during this period. The most excited happening is that we all meet Master Cheng Yen! Wow! Gan En everyone!
Share some photo here. more photo at my fb ^^








































































































































































































































大愛劇場新上檔好戲一閃一閃亮晶晶

就在明天大愛劇場新上檔好戲一閃一閃亮晶晶10月30日起每晚八點一定要準時收看喔~~

http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=448885226237

Monday, September 27, 2010

My 5th Dollhouse

This round will only uploaded few photos due to customer privacy. Will only share some pics without customer photos. ^^

This is bigger frame which can included picture size with 8'x10'. Have few design of frame and this is one of the modern type.

Lets share some picture here:



The size of frame: 8'x10'



This is after finish the dollhouse. Side view with 5cm depth.


Comparing the size with previous small dollhouse.


This is 1st try and i like it so much! One for mum and small for girl! i like the teddy bear fabric ^^


'Just for you' miniature cake on top of table.



Bear bear on top


More cartoon can be found at web: www.claytivecraft.com

Yellow butterfly to decorate the wall.

Sunday, September 26, 2010

My plant

Do you believe that i changed a lot after get married?

Before married, i don't like cooking and dislike gardening. But now see what happen to me?
I like to cook every day and dinner with my hubby after back from work.
Now already almost not going out for dinner. That is good felling and i like to hear 'So good, lao po' from my husband. ^^

Maybe is because of this, everyday back from work, i start to cooking and sometime only 'listening' to my Hokkien '天下父母心’but not watching.. haha. no time for that. ^^

And, guess what i doing today? ---Gardening---
Few days back, I noticed that someone from my same floor neighbour been throw the children writing table at rubbish room, where some part of the wood already torn off like signature of exposing to water for a period and cause the wood break off.

And ask my husband: Chu, that rubbish room a, have 1 small table oh.. donno i can take to place my plant or not a?
My husband reply me with action: Off course! and then move the table near to my plant.

I arrange my plant on top of it for few days. Finally take initiative to take action today!!

I painted the table with left over brown paint from my new house cover up the original color- blue + pink and some damage part.

While waiting the paint dry, i changed some of the metal pots (previously only using paint container that after painting the house) to recycle pots that give from my father in law when he moving to new house last week.

Hmm, just realize that it's not good to plant the flower at the paint container. As the soils keep in wet condition although i already make some hole at the bottom. So, i direct change all pots. Else, i think i will wait for few weeks to do it again.. haha. i am actually lazy and busy girl.. hehe

After paint dry, i arranged the plant on top of it. And here are some pics to share.
Now only left 2 pots is placed inside the house, and other all move to outside.

This is hanging at the balconi. Bought from shop. previously place near to my washing machine and now move to here to replace the purple colour flower that i move to outside.
This plant need sunbath a lots and afternoon sun is ok. But remember to provide some 'drink' everyday. ^^




This is place beside the TV at dining room.


That is the after rearrange outside of my house~ Pics too dark.. haha



Hmm. i have total.... let me count... 12 plant here!





Some from my friends, some from hometown & some i bought from shop here




This is Spore chilies. Still small size.. hope it will grow well and can serve me chilies after that. ^^



paku pakis from my friends








From my friends and mom







This is the purple colour flower. not sure how to call it. I like the flower. But the condition not as good as when i bought from shop. Can't expose to longer afternoon sun. Hope changing to new enviroment where only expose to morning sun will help to growth more healthy.


This is from my friends as well. previously all lay on soil. i change it to crawl on the fence. i will this design ^^




And finally this is from heaven! It start to grow at my empth pots from small size until this giant size! The pots seem too small to support the size. But i have headache how to change the pot? As the root seem fill up the pots!! errr... until i find the solution, else it will keep in this pots forever... And pity is that the plant alway lay on floor when the wind is strong here. hehe











Thursday, September 2, 2010

My 4th Miniature Dollhouse

This is my 4th doll house prepare for PISA 3rd-5th Sept 2010 fair.
Booth 04. Pls come to pay a visit if you attend the fair today until 5th sept.


Bookshelf: My favourite Taiwan magazine and notebook

Our wedding picture taken in Paisono, Penang.


Clay bead. Can purchase at : www.claytivecraft.com







Before stick the top wall.
Done! place some paper roses ~


Job complete on time! ^^